go after her, fuck, don’t sit there and wait for her to call, go after her because that’s what you should do if you love someone, don’t wait for them to give you a sign ‘cause it might never come, don’t let people happen to you, don’t let me happen to you, or her, she’s not a fucking television show or tornado. there are people i might have loved had they gotten on the airplane or run down the street after me or called me up drunk at four in the morning because they need to tell me right now and because they cannot regret this and i always thought i’d be the only one doing crazy things for people who would never give enough of a fuck to do it back or to act like idiots or be entirely vulnerable and honest and making someone fall in love with you is easy and flying 3000 miles on four days notice because you can’t just sit there and do nothing and breathe into telephones is not everyone’s idea of love but it is the way i can recognize it because that is what i do. go scream it and be with her in maeningful ways because that is beautiful and that is generous and that is what loving someone is, that is raw and that is unguarded, and that is all that is worth anything, really.
(via sarahthevampyrslyr)
Written originally by Helena Kvarnstrom
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Go after her. Fuck, don’t sit there and wait for her to call, go after her because that’s what you should do if you love someone, don’t wait for them to give you a sign cause it might never come, don’t let people happen to you, don’t let me happen to you, or her, she’s not a fucking television show or tornado. There are people I might have loved had they gotten on the airplane or run down the street after me or called me up drunk at four in the morning because they need to tell me right now and because they cannot regret this and I always thought I’d be the only one doing crazy things for people who would never give enough of a fuck to do it back or to act like idiots or be entirely vulnerable and honest and making someone fall in love with you is easy and flying 3000 miles on four days notice because you can’t just sit there and do nothing and breathe into telephones is not everyone’s idea of love but it is the way I can recognize it because that is what I do. Go scream it and be with her in meaningful ways because that is beautiful and that is generous and that is what loving someone is, that is raw and that is unguarded, and that is all that is worth anything, really.
(via dozzzier)
Written originally by Helena Kvarnstrom
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GO AFTER HER. FUCK, DON’T SIT THERE AND WAIT FOR HER TO CALL, GO AFTER HER BECAUSE THAT’S WHAT YOU SHOULD DO IF YOU LOVE SOMONE, DON’T WAIT FOR THEM TO GIVE YOU A SIGN CAUSE IT MIGHT NEVER COME, DON’T LET PEOPLE HAPPEN TO YOU, DON’T LET ME HAPPEN TO YOU, OR HER, SHE’S NOT A FUCKING TELEVISION SHOW OR TORNADO. THERE ARE PEOPLE I MIGHT HAVE LOVED HAD THEY GOTTEN ON THE AIRPLANE OR RUN DOWN THE STREET AFTER ME OR CALLED ME UP DRUNK AT FOUR IN THE MORNING BECAUSE THEY NEED TO TELL ME RIGHT NOW AND BECAUSE THEY CANNOT REGRET THIS AND I ALWAYS THOUGHT I’D BE THE ONLY ONE DOING CRAZY THINGS FOR PEOPLE WHO WOULD NEVER GIVE ENOUGH OF A FUCK TO DO IT BACK OR TO ACT LIKE IDIOTS OR BE ENTIRELY VULNERABLE AND HONEST AND MAKING SOMEONE FALL IN LOVE WITH YOU IS EASY AND FLYING 3000 MILES ON FOUR DAYS NOTICE BECAUSE YOU CAN’T JUST SIT THERE AND DO NOTHING AND BREATHE INTO TELEPHONES. IT’S NOT EVERYONES IDEA OF LOVE BUT IT IS THE WAY I CAN RECOGNIZE IT BECAUSE THAT IS WHAT I DO. GO SCREAM IT AND BE WITH HER IN MEANINGFUL WAYS BECAUSE THAT IS BEAUTIFUL AND THAT IS GENEROUS AND THAT IS WHAT LOVING SOMEONE IS, THAT IS RAW AND THAT IS UNGUARDED, AND THAT IS ALL THAT IS WORTH ANYTHING, REALLY.
- <3 (via kerwel) (via dearmary) (via kimikarma) (via thegirldressedindreams)
Originally written by Helena Kvarnstrom (http://inne.day-lab.com) like a million years ago on LiveJournal. Re-blogged without attribution just about everywhere on the internet. Please credit her if you see this posted.
‘Go after her. Fuck, don’t sit there and wait for her to call, go after her because that’s what you should do if you love someone, don’t wait for them to give you a sign cause it might never come, don’t let people happen to you, don’t let me happen to you, or her, she’s not a fucking television show or tornado. There are people I might have loved had they gotten on the airplane or run down the street after me or called me up drunk at four in the morning because they need to tell me right now and because they cannot regret this and I always thought I’d be the only one doing crazy things for people who would never give enough of a fuck to do it back or to act like idiots or be entirely vulnerable and honest and making someone fall in love with you is easy and flying 3000 miles on four days notice because you can’t just sit there and do nothing and breathe into telephones is not everyone’s idea of love but it is the way I can recognize it because that is what I do. Go scream it and be with her in meaningful ways because that is beautiful and that is generous and that is what loving someone is, that is raw and that is unguarded, and that is all that is worth anything, really.
(via physalys)
Helena Kvarnstrom wrote this originally, a long damn time ago. She also takes nice photos. http://inne.day-lab.com
If he were the right guy for you, there would be nothing on this earth keeping him from you. None of this not-over-his-ex sh*t, none of this not-ready-for-committment crap, no excuses, equivocation, or hemming and hawing. He would be there, and present, and totally excited about it. Don’t waste your time if they’re not.
Siobhan O’Neill (via whyimsingle) (via loveishere) (via lovebot) (via destroyx)
Fuck yeah.
“Go after her. Fuck, don’t sit there and wait for her to call, go after her because that’s what you should do if you love someone, don’t wait for them to give you a sign cause it might never come, don’t let people happen to you, don’t let me happen to you, or her, she’s not a fucking television show or tornado. There are people I might have loved had they gotten on the airplane or run down the street after me or called me up drunk at four in the morning because they need to tell me right now and because they cannot regret this and I always thought I’d be the only one doing crazy things for people who would never give enough of a fuck to do it back or to act like idiots or be entirely vulnerable and honest and making someone fall in love with you is easy and flying 3000 miles on four days notice because you can’t just sit there and do nothing and breathe into telephones is not everyone’s idea of love but it is the way I can recognize it because that is what I do. Go scream it and be with her in meaningful ways because that is beautiful and that is generous and that is what loving someone is, that is raw and that is unguarded, and that is all that is worth anything, really.”
(via jessicachu)
Helena Kvarnstrom wrote this originally. http://inne.day-lab.com/
She posted it over 7 years ago in her LiveJournal. I have no idea how it ended up all over the internet without attribution. Please spread the word. She’s really great and deserves credit.
I am not happy anymore.
I am starting to realize that after a series of bad relationships and pseudo relationships with family, friends, boys, etc. my default position is just to believe that I am a shitty person and no one likes me, and if I stop being fun or fun-ny for too long or make the slightest mistake or reveal too much of my ‘true’ self, that people will leave. And so I interpret everything as abandonment or rejection. Suddenly someone is busy or distracted and feels distant or there’s SOME KIND OF CHANGE, and I interpret that as, “I did something wrong, or something happened that they didn’t like, and now they are going to leave.” And at that point, I seem to either start doing a lot of stupid passive-aggressive things to get attention, or, to try to avoid feeling rejected, I start pushing people away. It becomes a sort of “Fine, if you are going to go, then fucking go, I don’t want you anyway” sort of thing. I become an unpleasant person to deal with. I am rude and snippy and moody and irritable and turn everything into a fight. I reinterpret everything that has happened in a negative light—explaining away or completely ignoring anything positive—and turn it into a whole “Well clearly you were just using me but that’s fine because I was just using you too, and this whole thing has been ridiculous” kind of deal that pretty much sabotages the relationship, because if I’m saying “NONE OF THIS HAS MEANT ANYTHING TO ME, SHITBAG” most people don’t want to go out on a limb and be like “Well I’m sorry you feel that way, because it meant something to me.” I don’t know how to just go on like nothing’s wrong when it feels like something is. I don’t know how many times I can ask “IS SOMETHING WRONG?” before annoying someone, and I never believe their answer anyway, so what’s the point? I am afraid of embarrassing myself. I am afraid maybe, more than anything, of being the idiot that can’t pick up on a hint, or that clings desperately (again) to something that is dead just because I want so badly for it to be what it used to be, to be something that was fun or comforting or inspiring or important to me and still had some value to the others involved. To not have value anymore, that is hard for me. I take it very personally. It makes me feel like a failure. I don’t care what very many people think of me, I don’t let them matter. But when I do, it turns my whole world upside down. It scares me. I feel frightened all of the time, too vulnerable. And then, almost kind of ironically, that is when people stop liking me, because I start acting too f*ing crazy and am too difficult to be around because I am behaving like scared animals typically do—run, scratch, fight, hiss, bark, growl, whimper, whine. Leia, she is a small little dog, and all she does is bark and growl at everyone and everything, because she is small and she is scared and she doesn’t know if she can trust you. I feel like that a lot.
Bad day
Abuse empties out your soul and fills it with shit.
